What would you be remembered for when you leave this world? My weight-loss group had an interesting talk around this subject at our meeting last Friday. Obviously, we all want to be remembered for the good things we did and for the good we would like to believe others saw in us, like friendliness, patience and kindness.
Some said they would like their children to remember that their mom did her best to look better and never gave up trying to get to the weight goal she desired. Why? Because they felt that only when the weight was gone, they could really be perfect!
How different life may be for many of us if we could stop yearning for perfection!
In his book “The 100 Simple Secrets Of Healthy People”, Dr. David Niven, a psychologist and social scientist, who researched scientific studies done by health professionals about the attitudes, habits and practises which affect our health, had this to say about the desire for “perfection”:
“The Quest for a Perfect Body is Doomed.”
He go on to say that: “Seeking a healthier lifestyle is an inherently good thing that will help you in many ways in your life. But seeking a perfect outcome – the perfect body – is neither good, nor helpful. When we seek a perfect outcome, We set ourselves up for failure.” Why? According to the vast amount of research on the subject, perfection does not exist. We are likely to find something else about our appearance lacking for every improvement we make, and Levine quote surveys done by the of U.S. Department of Health and Human Services where 98 percent of people named something they wanted to change about their bodies, with weight being the most frequently mentioned.
Would you like to be remembered as someone who were happy with whom she was or someone who never quite believed that she was perfect the way she was? While it is good to strive for a healthy body it is unhealthy to believe that you can only be perfect if you measure up to a certain number. Too often I meet people with amazing qualities at my scale who’s self-believe (and happiness) are dictated by the number the scale present to them on a specific day.
We are so much more than the size of our pants or the number on the scale and we have a responsibility to those close to us. Rather than being remembered for trying to attain a certain look you perceive as better than whom you are right now, start living a life which honour the person you are. Let others see your strengths, courage and love and your willingness to make healthy choices for their sake and for yourself, not because you believe it will improve your appearance, but because you want to take care of your self in the best possible way. You can not leave a better legacy than that.
I love this quote by Anne Lamott:
“Your problem is how you are going to spend this one and only precious life you have been issued. Whether you're going to spend it trying to look good and creating the illusion that you have power over circumstances, or whether you are going to taste it, enjoy it and find out the truth about who you are.”
Don't forget the talk and demonstration about the Brain Gym this Saturday, July 2014
The Author of this Article is Lorraine Le Roux Life Coach and Weight-Management Consultant. No part of this Article may be republished without written consent from the Author.